Parents always talk about the “terrible twos”, expressing concern over their child’s tantrums. Although having an infant comes with its own difficulties, so many moms and dads fear what comes along with toddlerhood– the inevitable meltdowns. What’s not discussed as often is how important it is for children to learn how to express themselves, for better and for worse. While we don’t want to encourage bad behavior, children being able to vent their challenging emotions is crucial to their development.
One of the most important things that any parent can do to encourage this behavior in their child is to make sure that they, as parents, aren’t suppressing their own difficult emotions. A study conducted at Washington State University sought to analyze the age-old adage that many of us were raised with, “Not in front of the kids.”
So many of us try to hide any conflict from our children so that they can stay happy and oblivious to anything negative that’s taking place. As it turns out, this can be more detrimental than beneficial to our children. The study found that “Kids are good at picking up subtle cues from emotions. If they feel something negative has happened, and the parents are acting normal and not addressing it, that’s confusing for them. Those are two conflicting messages being sent.”
By being exposed to negative emotions from others, children are able to become more familiar with them and likely won’t be as fearful when they encounter less-than-positive emotions themselves. Researchers have found that there is a way that you can make sure that they have a strong foundation. “Let them see the whole trajectory. That helps kids learn to regulate their own emotions and solve problems. They see that problems can get resolved. It’s best to let the kids know that you feel angry, and tell them what you’re going to do about it to make the situation better.”
Here at BumoBrain, our small class sizes enable our teachers to develop strong connections with our BumoBuddies. Whether you or your little one are having a terrible day (or a great one), our BumoTeachers are here to support them through every step of their learning journey! We offer Circle Time Live Classes that promote socialization and listening! In these classes, your child will learn about days of the week, months of the year, as well as social skills through their interactions with the teacher and classmates. Encountering new concepts and learning materials can be frustrating at times, but we’ll make sure to encourage your child to express whatever they’re feeling so that they can persevere and overcome what’s challenging them!